Everyone to abuse their wives? Sometimes adults

Everyone should hit their child when
they discipline. Right? Well, it is illegal for a parent, teacher or anyone to
hit a child in 47 countries and a prohibited punishment in school in 124
countries. Yet all around the world, people think a punishment is necessary as
long as it’s not severe and, unfortunately, even encouraged.

 

Hitting your children makes them
think it’s right and OK. Parents are physically bigger and stronger than
children. They are smarter because their brain and body are fully developed
unlike a child’s. When a parent tries to hit their own child to make them
behave better, the parent is basically telling them that hitting someone who is
weaker or smaller than you is an acceptable way to get them to do anything.
Could this be why children bully smaller children or grow up to abuse their
wives?

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Sometimes adults get frustrated
easily or get stressed from work, family, relationships etc. so hitting your
child who has been getting on your nerves, will get you to experience immense
relief, which drives you to hit more or harder. Punishment will always turn to
abuse. Once you begin to punish your child lightly, where do you stop? For an
example, your child reaches your valuable things, you tap his hand so he can
stop touching it, he reaches again and this time you spank his hand lightly, he
reaches it again and you hit harder. You’ve now started a cycle to always hit
your child harder, the issues then are about who’s stronger, your child’s will
to touch it or your punishment not your valuable stuff anymore. The danger of
punishment is when a child disobeys, you may feel like you have to hit harder
until he’s so sore he can’t disobey anymore. Your hand becomes a fist, your
folded newspaper becomes a belt, now what once was just an innocent tap becomes
child abuse.

 

Hitting your child distracts the
child from learning to resolve the conflict in a proper way because they get
overwhelmed with feelings of anger and fantasies of revenge, losing the
opportunity to learn how to resolve it making a punished child difficult to
handle similar situations or prevent similar situations in the future. Even
though children don’t think properly like adults, they can still sense
unfairness in this word. Punishing your child will create a very angry child,
therefore, making them rebel and feel humiliated.

 

Abuse interferes with the bond
between parents and children as we cannot feel love towards someone who hurt
us. It only gives you good behaviour from fear but not love or care. If your
child grew up in a very loving caring home but got spanked once or twice, your
child won’t remember any specific happy scenes in vivid detail, unlike the
spanking scenes. It’s fascinating how one negative memory can block out so many
positive memories. Punishing your child affects you too! Once a mother quotes,
after spanking her child, “I won the battle. But lost the war” This suggests
that she got her child to do whatever she wants however her child now fears
her; she now lost her child.